PTSD? That’s Something Soldiers Have. Not Mothers: An Ode to My Dad
I started this post back on the 20th of May, my dad’s birthday. It took me this long to be able to come back to it. I have always prided myself on being the epitome of stability. A rock that people could rely on when they were falling apart. I’m cool in an emergency. I’m thoughtful. I’m deliberate. I don’t…Read More »
What Does it Mean to Lead?
There’s really only one person in the world that I hope will read this. Earlier today, a dear friend asked, “What makes a leader?” I have to be honest, I have no idea. But, I know the qualities of the leaders I have respected. They stand up when others don’t. Even at great personal peril. They teach and shepherd the…Read More »
What Does It Mean For The Show To Go On?
Earlier today a rag-tag group of people gathered in Northridge Park in Coralville, Iowa. I walked over to a table and saw some little children drawing on pennants with puffy paint. They were creating dedications to my son. One looked up at me and asked, as she would have any nearby grown-up, “How do you spell Charlie?” I spelled it…Read More »
A Time to Re-Open…
I started tweeting about this a little bit ago, but I now realize it might be enough thinking to be its own post. On Monday I was invited to give a talk, hosted by some old friends and new collaborators. On the way there, I was thinking about what I would talk about and looking through my slides. So many…Read More »
Focusing on the Cut and Shoot…
I’m not sure that it’s possible to describe the worst day of your life. It’s been almost three weeks since I lost one of the brightest stars at the center of my galaxy. The first week was a whirlwind. Family flew in, casseroles arrived, cards and flowers, the lady who helps us clean came more than necessary, but it was…Read More »
Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and the R01 Thirst Trap
As I spend the day reflecting, I have read this newly released article from my colleagues Michael Taffe and Nicholas Gilpin at eLife about 10 times. Each time I read it, I discover something else that tickles my brain and provokes my thoughts. Do yourself a favor and go read Equity, Diversity and Inclusion: Racial inequity in grant funding from…Read More »
Andy Mills, Audio Producer and Noted Harasser of Women, Keeps Failing Upwards
I listen to a lot of podcasts and radio shows, and yet I had never heard of Andy Mills until women in radio started speaking out against him. If you have ever listened to Radiolab (on WNYC) or the shows Caliphate and The Daily (from the New York Times), then you’ve heard his work. He’s audio producer with a reputation…Read More »
Do Not Give Away Our Shot!!
I woke up at about 2 am to use the bathroom, as women my age are prone to do. After a profoundly unsatisfying pee, I checked Twitter. I’ve got a friend on a crazy COVID-19 sleep schedule and he’s usually up at about that time. He’s got a perfume blog that you should check out. Remember blog rolls? I miss…Read More »