Dear Surly Amy,
I am a fresh high school graduate going for medical school as fast as money will allow. My friend is quite into crystal therapy and most alternative “medicine”. Being that I quite fancy him, I try to play nice on the issue but what happens if he gets seriously ill? It’s really hard to fancy a corpse. Should I keep on him about why crystal therapy is not supported by any real science or let him be and see if I can have a relationship while avoiding the crystal elephant in the room? I am so torn on the issue because dead friends/boyfriends can be such a bore.
Perhaps you can convince your friend to help you with your homework and help you study for medical school exams. Then you will have a chance to spend some romantic time with him while sharing information that isn’t just you telling him he is wrong. As I have mentioned before it is much more effective to help a person along the path of learning by asking questions and sharing facts in a non argumentative way. Maybe invite your friend to spend time with you with other med school students or invite him to sit in on a relevant lecture at your school or at a skeptic event. It will come across in a much kinder way if you can help him learn some facts about science and medicine by what he assumes are his own discoveries. Share what you are learning in an exiting and positive way and perhaps he will want to learn as well.
And if that fails to open his eyes on the topics, I would find someone else to fancy. There are plenty of fish in the sea and life is WAY too short to waste your precious time on someone who thinks shiny rocks hold the power to heal. Besides, why tie yourself down when you are just entering med school? First of all, you are going to be really busy with schooling and second of all, being a med student means you are a CATCH! ;)
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