To those of you who don’t know, I recently gave birth to a baby (she is one month old now). Surprisingly, I really enjoy being a mother, staying home, staring at my baby and giving her lots of attention. I use the word “surprisingly” because before giving birth, I would have viewed this behavior as confining and depressing, but I am actually quite fulfilled and happy.
I am not using my current behavior as a justification to let everyone know how much having babies is worth it. In fact, I have plenty of friends who choose to not have children and I’m happy for them! I’ve always wanted to have kids and I had a planned pregnancy. (I have to admit, even though I love my baby, I don’t necessarily like other people’s children–although I realize my issue is likely with other parents, not the kids themselves.)
Even though I did not have any medical issues dring pregnancy, I was plenty miserable and scared of being responsible for a new human being and losing my free time. Now that I have a baby, I want to let everyone like past-me know that I am sleep-deprived, I have less “me” time, and having a kid is hard, but I don’t mind any of this and I feel happier now than I ever did during pregnancy.
Finally, I’m trying very hard as a new parent to not be like “one of those” parents featured on STFUParents or something, but I will admit, I talk a lot about baby poop, about how cute my daughter is, and lots of other baby-only things. There, I admitted it! I find it hard to have an adult conversation without mentioning her OK? HORMONES!
So today’s AI is baby-themed, for parents, future parents, people who are childfree, and even people who don’t want anything to do with any kids.
Do you have children or are you considering it? If you have kids, what would you say to your pre-child self? If you are childfree, what sort of issues do you face and how do you want people to talk to you about it (if at all)? Do you have any funny stories involving kids or pregnancy? Whether you want a child or not, do you have any questions for current parents?
If I have left a question out or phrased something weirdly, please let me know in the comments, because I know this is a sensitive issue for some. And please go easy on me, I just got the first 6-hour stretch of sleep that I’ve had in months!