Without going into too much detail, character limit I am struggling with some issues dealing with emotional abuse in my life. All the help that I’ve been able to find, though, has to do with getting right with Jesus, and the old chestnut, “God loves you, so why can’t you love yourself?”Are there any resources that someone who is not down with God can use to help him heal emotional wounds that have been inflicted on him for 4 decades? Or as Atheists are we just OK, and don’t need help? Maybe we’re all emotionless robots and therefore can’t be damaged emotionally?
First of all, I highly recommend you go and get some professional counseling from a doctor. I would recommend you find a psychiatrist first and then have them refer you to a counselor or psychologist.
Emotional abuse is as serious as physical abuse and you definitely need to seek professional care. Seeking out a psychiatrist should help you bypass all the religious mumbo jumbo you have been hearing as you can explain your situation to them up front and tell them that you have special needs and specifically do not want to be referred to a religious counselor or organization. A psychiatrist can also give you an evaluation which may help in deciding which counselor or therapist is best in terms of your specific needs and let you know if any medication may help you.
It is difficult to navigate the waters when looking for a decent therapist in the secular community on your own and we have touched on that topic in an earlier Ask Surly Amy post. If you don’t find a secular-minded therapist at first, do not give up until you do find one. It is extremely important that you find professional care after 40 years of abuse.
In regards to atheists being, “emotionless robots” that can’t be damaged. Well, I am going to assume that was meant as a joke. Obviously, there is nothing different between an atheist and a religious person in those terms. We are all just mushy, fleshy, mammals that are chock-full of emotions. We all need love and understanding and we all can be damaged by abuse.
I wish you the best in your healing process.
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