I am going through my second divorce in 5 years. My first marriage lasted 18 years and produced two children who live with me. The second marriage lasted two years. My therapist suggested a divorce/grief support group. A search revealed many groups in my area. There is one problem; all of them are faith based. Perhaps I’m just being cynical, but I don’t want to invest my emotions into a group that I could quite likely not fit in with.
Still I thought I’d contact one of groups and after settling on which session I could make, I received this email:
“Hope, healing, and new friends are a blessing of this ministry. Take care, Kay”
I am at a loss as to what to do. I desperately need support, but I can’t accept being told that to heal I need to put my faith in a magical sky man.
What is an atheist to do in a situation like this?
You and I actually spoke about this on the side and the advice I gave to you was to seek out a psychiatrist for alternative advice or to ask for a referral for a group therapist from an MD. A medical doctor may know of some science-based or secular councilors in your area that your particular therapist was not aware of. I also suggested that you actually call and ask about the groups before visiting or spending money or time on a group that is not right for you. Because no, I don’t think that you should put yourself into a situation where you don’t feel comfortable and where people will not understand your particular needs and views but you do need professional help.
I stand by that advice.
The reason I have decided to go ahead and post your question publicly is that I think this is a serious issue that the community may have some insight on. We really need a secular and science-based database of doctors and community services but I am not aware of anything like that existing. It took me some trial and error and footwork before I could personally find for myself a primary care physician in my area that I trusted to be science-minded and I am wondering if any members of the Skepchick community have run into similar issues.
Does anyone know of an easier way to locate science-based therapy or medicine in todays alternative and faith-based marketplace? Are there any resources I may have missed?
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