I had an interesting conversation with a friend while hiking the other day regarding love. This person told me that there is no such thing as unconditional love.Â All love is conditional. My friend claims only to love people and things based upon conditions. If the conditions change then the feelings change as well. The main argument being, that you love your husband, wife, partner, lovers, friends etc based upon how they act and what they do. If they were to suddenly stop behaving in ways that you approve of, you would no longer feel the same way about them.
I argued at first and said things like, “…but what about children? You still love them when they Â misbehave….and you can love people for all the wrong reasons and what about ROMANCE! What about TRUE LOVE, DAMMIT!” Â I shook my fist in the air and stomped my feet in the dirt to emphasize my point.
My friend calmly countered by saying that those are still conditions that affect how we perceive the people that we feel love for.
So what do you think? Can you actually love someone unconditionally? Or is all love based on conditions and perceived situations? Is there something that your true love could do that would make you stop loving them or something someone you dislike could do that would then cause you to feel love?
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