A few weeks ago, I put out a public request for AI topic ideas. I got a couple responses, one of which I used that day. Another suggestion stood out to me as something worthy of asking regardless of whether or not I was in a pinch. We’ve had plenty of discussions in the past regarding the institutions with which people involve themselves in the name of love. However, I couldn’t recall whether or not we had ever talked about the feeling itself in relation to one’s skepticism.
At any rate, thank you Jared (aka Expatria) for the topic!
â€œ [â€¦] and yet, to say the truth, reason and
love keep little company together now-a-daysâ€
-Bottom, A Midsummer Nightâ€™s Dream, Act III Scene I
Weâ€™ve all been there. You find a special someone, and he/she becomes the apple of your eye. You convince yourself the feeling is mutual, thinking â€œOf COURSE this is right! We SHOULD be togetherâ€¦ she/he feels the same way! This is the start of something great!â€
And then, you get rejected.
Maybe there were warning signs that it would never have worked. Maybe your friends cautioned you against going for it. Maybe you even had second thoughtsâ€¦ but you ignored them because, to quote Death Cab for Cutie, â€œYou shouldnâ€™t think what youâ€™re feeling.â€
Or should you?
When it comes to matters of the heart, are skeptics any better at coping with breakups or rejections than non-skeptics? Or do the rational and the emotional occupy separate spheres? Can you look rationally at a relationship, real or potential, or is reason simply not satisfying to the heart?
The Afternoon Inquisition (or AI) is a question posed to you, the Skepchick community. Look for it to appear daily at 3pm ET.