I’m in a board meeting. Having a miscarriage. Thank goodness, because there’s a fucked-up 3-week hoop-jump to have an abortion in Wisconsin.
Penelope has taken a lot of heat for this tweet. She was flippant and callously discussing miscarriage and abortion. People were angry.
As most of you know, I suffered a miscarriage around Memorial Day. The reason most of you know this is because I announced here on Skepchick that I was pregnant just 3 weeks earlier (after our ultrasound showed a healthy fetus with a beating heart). That was my second miscarriage, and it was awful.
Initially, Trunk’s statement really upset me, probably because I’ve lost two pregnancies that I very much wanted.
But her explanation, and her defenders, points out something very important: most women suffer miscarriages – whether they want the pregnancy or not. And we should probably be talking about it more – it’s just part of being a woman.
I’ve noticed that when I’ve discussed my miscarriages casually in conversation, people tend to get uncomfortable… they don’t know what to say. It’s one of those things you only discuss in third person, and only in a hushed tone. (“Oh, you didn’t hear? Elyse had a miscarriage.”) But to me, it’s a part of what’s been going on with me lately. I still think about it, and sometimes I mention it when it’s relevant to the conversation… kind of the same way I discuss my sister who passed away in 2002.
What do you think of Trunk’s statement? What do you think of her explanation? Should we be talking about miscarriages more? Is the 12-week-wait rule of announcing your pregnancy prudent or a part of the “we don’t talk about miscarriages” problem? Is it even a problem?
The Afternoon Inquisition (or AI) is a question posed to you, the Skepchick community. Look for it to appear daily at 3pm ET.