As some of you who follow me on Twitter and Facebook know, last week my husband and I received some tragic and heartbreaking news. The outpouring of support from the skeptical community was unbelievable. I received messages of sorrow, sympathy, compassion, support and many people shared their personal stories with me, offered help, and joined us for mindless (and fun) Mario Kart races online. It was so touching and it really made the last few days easier. Thanks to you people, and your kindness, we are healing faster and coping healthier than we expected (or planned.)
When people I know go through hard times, it’s hard for me to find the right thing to say… back in the day it was easy to say, “I’ll be praying for you.” It’s something I could actually do and it offered comfort. Now I fumble for words, and usually end up offering help that I’d be surprised if the person took me up on (no matter how sincere the offer is) and letting them know they are in my thoughts. I feel so helpless… more helpless when something happens to a friend than when something happens to me.
Do you ever know the right thing to say when a friend is in need? What do you tell them? Have you ever offered prayers even though you don’t believe? Or do you believe praying DOES help, at least on some level? What do you do? What do you say? How do you help?