It’s already started. People have already begun saying those ridiculously nonsensical and trite things to me now that I’m pregnant.
The other day I was having a conversation with a friend who asked me whether I want a boy or a girl. I said I don’t really think I care much. A girl would be nice since we already have a boy, but my son is so much fun, I think another boy would be great. To which she responded, “How about we just say you don’t care as long as it’s healthy?” Huh?
I immediately pointed out that the two are not mutually exclusive. That parents don’t have to sacrifice the well being of their newborn in order to have a preference of one over the other. You can want a girl and, at the same time, want your child to not be born with cripplingly painful birth defects that wll kill her before she’s a month old.
When people say, “Oh we don’t care as long as it’s healthy.” I am always half tempted to ask, “Ok, what if it’s not? Like what if it’s stillborn or has to spend 3 months in the NICU. Then what do you want?”
Of course, that would be a hugely dickheaded thing to say, so I don’t.
What other non-sensical niceties or words of advice about parenting/parents (or parenting/pregnancy superstitions) drive you crazy because they make no sense? When people say/do these things, do you point out the ridiculousness of it?