The internet has been a buzz with talk about the date rape scene in Seth Rogen’s new movie Observe and Report.Â Rogen defends the scene by saying they make it okay by having the victim character literally ask for it.
For those of you not familiar, Anna Farris’ character gets drunk, barfs, and passes out. While she’s unconscious, Rogen’s character starts “having sex” with her. He has a moment of clarity, realizes what he’s doing is wrong, and stops. Farris’ character then, without opening her eyes, says, “Did I tell you to stop, motherfucker?” Which is apparently the same as “giving consent” and is the pinnacle of hilarity.
I’ve noticed that roofie jokes are considered quite funny lately. 30 Rock recently did an entire episode revolving around roofies. And Family Guy also had a scene where Peter goes into Quagmire’s house, and while sitting on a couch, a mechanical arm comes out, gasses him, he passes out and then the couch reclines and stirrups pop out to spread his legs. The “joke” being that this is a set-up for ladies but Peter made the mistake of getting himself compromised by going into Quagmire’s house, who is known for being sexually adventurous and deviant.
Having sex with a passed out person is never portrayed as totally normal and okay. But it is portrayed as something that people do out of desperation… sad and sick, morally questionable, but not criminal. And it’s funny.
Having been the victim of exactly this kind of rape, I have a hard time finding the humor in this.
Could someone please explain this to me? What is so funny about this? How is rape something that becomes funny when it’s just something desperate people have to do?