Last weekend, talking to a friend who is a parent, the topic of popularity came up. She was talking about helping her son to seize strategic social opportunities (such as sitting near the cake at a birthday party) so he will be successful socially. I completely understand the impulse to try to prevent your child going through the pains of being a social outcast, but at the same time, even though it completely sucked when it was happening, I value my outcast experience very highly. I don’t think my life would be nearly as interesting if I hadn’t come through what I did.
What do you think about this? Do you or will you try to steer you children socially? Is the suffering worth the outcome?
Thanks to Kammy for inspiring this one.