Dear Surly Amy, At uni today I got into a discussion about victim blaming, and someone did the stock thing of saying ‘If a woman gets so bladdered she can’t think, it’s her fault. Especially if she’s not wearing much’. How can you respond to this and attempt to make some sort of impression? The only other person involved supported him and in an engineering department,... »
Dear Surly Amy, What’s the scoop on allergy shots? The year I spent on the maintenance dose was the sickest I’ve ever been in my life. I just moved to a new state and am pondering whether to start them up again. Are they really the amazing cure-all my allergist seemed to think they were? ~Megan Dear Megan, As you know, I’m not a doctor but I’m still I’m pretty darn su... »
Message: Hi guys. I need your help to clarify a question that’s been bugging me for a while now. I’m a crazy cat lady and so is a friend of mine. We meet over coffee to discuss our “babies.” She said her cat – a beautiful Norwegian with probably the lushest coat I ever saw on a cat – was falling ill (urinary tract problems mainly) because it was not a pure breed but had some Maine Coon... »
Dear Surly Amy, I have a question. Before I became a skeptic, I purchased A LOT of pseudoscientific self help/metaphysical books (a la Chopra, Dyer, Eckhart Tolle, etc.) and now I have them sitting on my bookshelf (a constant reminder of my shameful past!). I don’t know what to do with them now. I feel bad donating them because I do not want to contribute to filling someone else’s head... »
Hi Amy- Short question here: What is the deal with Fibromyalgia? I have read that its existence is disputed, but is it a real condition and if so, what is it? Thanks- Meagan »
Dear Surly Amy, My marriage is kind of hittin d rocks right now. My husband doesn’t like talking about it especially the intimate part. I’d like to know if its normal for men to be romantic only when they want to have sex. I try to get him to play with me but if he is not in the mood for sex, he would stop me. When ever he’s in the mood, he expects me to succumb whether I want it or not. Is this n... »
Dear Surly Amy, My uni’s football team is hosting a party with a token contest. The ad says `GIRLS! Get tokens from guys by KISSING them’ (pic of girl on top of a guy) and `GUYS! Get tokens by BUYING GIRLS DRINKS’ (pic of creepy guy w/ drink). I objected on the Facebook page, w/ a female friend. There was outrage including `my friends say I’m not sexist’, `you think i... »
Hey Amy, My wife and I live in kind of a poor neighborhood, and we’re sort of well-off by comparison. While we’re not friends with our neighbors, we’re fond of the local kids, who are loud but kind of sweet and open and friendly. We don’t and can’t have any kids of our own. Last year we had an excuse to buy a couple of the kids some gifts because we know they don’t have much, but this year we’d li... »
