Heina Dadabhoy's Posts

The Ethics of DickPix

The Ethics of DickPix

Fair warning: Images will get more NSFW-looking, though never NSFW, as we go. The first time it happened, the man in question knew that I was very much underage (all of fourteen years old) and a devout Muslim uninterested in explicit imagery. It wasn’t anonymous, either; he knew me from my posts at Phatooine. “Your first dick” read the caption underneath the blurry, oddly-angled ... »

After All, It Was Just a Question

After All, It Was Just a Question

The following is an exercise in assuming the best intentions of people who ask things. How did this all this end up happening? To quote the only dynamic (and possibly most problematic) adult character on South Park, there are no stupid questions, just stupid people. I’m pretty sure I’m not stupid. Therefore, I planned to ask a question that’s been bothering me for a long time. I ... »

Former Bullies, Take Note

Former Bullies, Take Note

A while ago, I posted a Facebook status regarding one of my childhood tormentors. She had, upon encountering some of my relatives, said that she remembered me and asked that they say hi to me from her. I had a little vent but didn’t say that I hated her, believed her to be a bad person, or anything like that. Regardless, I had unwittingly put out a former bully bat-signal. People I knew clai... »

For Hire: Jerkface Detection Services

For Hire: Jerkface Detection Services

The first time I spoke up, it wasn’t because I had a political agenda. I was vaguely feminist, sure, but I wasn’t one of those over-sensitive types who whined about everything and said “privilege” a lot. It wasn’t because I wanted attention, either. As a matter of fact, it was because I didn’t want the attention in question. I wanted to define myself, including ... »

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Poverty & Disability: A Most Dangerous Combination

Poverty plus disability equals death sentence. They’re like bleach and ammonia: if the twain do meet and there are no windows for you to open, you’re history. This is about someone who found a window or two but could have just as easily asphyxiated. He was born into the middle class but a custody battle (and, later, his mother’s drug problems) ensured that he grew up in poverty. ... »

Confessions of a Former Holocaust Denier

Confessions of a Former Holocaust Denier

Note: More than once, I’ve actually heard anti-Jewish Arabs argue that there’s no way they could be “anti-Semitic” since they don’t hate themselves; I grew up with the understanding that “Semite” is not a synonym for “Jew.” For the sake of my own clarity in writing this and to avoid that sort of semantic nit-picking, I will refer to hostility t... »

Baby Genitalia Inspires Assholes

Baby Genitalia Inspires Assholes

[Update: After Jessica Wakeman of The Frisky covered my piece and tweeted her coverage tagging in STFU Parents, Blair Koenig aka STFU Parents clarified what was meant (and not meant) by the tweet. We conversed via Twitter (see the conversation). Basically, Koenig says that she considers herself pro-LGBT and pro-trans* and intended the RT to reflect on social media trends, not to imply that the tra... »

On Being “One of the Good Ones”

On Being “One of the Good Ones”

So it’s come to this: I must express the most bizarrely meta think I’ve ever thought. One’s openness to engagement with hostile and/or contentious individuals is not necessarily a sign of superior strength, intellect, moral fortitude, or anything at all like that. It’s generally a function of many, many other mitigating factors. Some of these relevant factors include, but a... »

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