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Quickies: #YesAllWomen, How to Rescue Bees, and Unwanted Penises

On May 26, 1828, Kasper Hauser, an unknown teenager stumbled into the streets of Nuremberg, Germany. He claimed to have lived in a darkened house since infancy. Historians have disputed many details of his story, but it’s interesting to read about nonetheless.

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Mary Brock works as an Immunology scientist by day and takes care of a pink-loving princess child by night. She likes cloudy days, crafting, cooking, and Fall weather in New England.

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  1. I … don’t actually like that last story. Here’s what jumped out at me:

    “It wasn’t my fault that David was so aggressive, but I knew that my need to please others — strangers, even, and guys I didn’t like — is what had gotten me into the situation.”

    It’s victim-blaming, and that the victim is the author herself doesn’t make it better.

    It actually sounds to me like her people-pleasing, while a behavior that is detrimental to her own well-being, is not what got her into that situation. What got her into that situation was a dude who read “Above the Game” and was trying to implement it. His behaviors are all PUA cranked to 11.

    It’s good that she recognizes that looking out for herself is important and is a skill she should work on perfecting, but that is a completely separate issue from the root cause of a dude sticking his dick in her hand, and I don’t like the elision of these two issues.

    1. I feel like she was blaming the situation she was in on herself (being in a car with a guy she didn’t even remotely like, and not leaving while she had the chance). I don’t think she puts the blame on herself regarding the man pulling his penis out like that, there’s no way she could’ve known he was going to go that far.

  2. As someone who has been in a very similar situation, I identified strongly with her story. And yeah, she shouldn’t blame herself. But I blamed myself too, even though I would NEVER blame someone else. But it is so, so difficult not to. Saying her feelings are wrong feelings makes me uncomfortable.

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