Frequently Answered Questions
A week after this whole Richard Dawkins shit-storm began, I’m still getting flooded with messages that all ask the same questions. With that in mind:
- No, I don’t hate men. All men are not rapists. Most men aren’t, even!
- No, I don’t even hate Richard Dawkins.
- Yes, if he recants we can all hug and maybe I’ll buy one of his books in the future
- My current disinterest in his books is entirely about conscientiously giving my money to people and causes I believe in and who believe in me. I am not calling for a boycott. Analogy: I am a vegetarian, but publicly stating that fact and appreciating that other skeptics are vegetarian is not a campaign to make you be a vegetarian, too.
- Saying I’m “too ugly to rape” misses the scientific fact that rape has nothing to do with attraction. Babies get raped, in case you hadn’t noticed.
- Joking that you will rape or sexually assault me at a specific time and place is not joking in the sense that we understand jokes to be sentences that are humorous. Try harder.
- No, I haven’t organized any action to occur at The Amazing Meeting this weekend in Vegas. No protests, no mass gum-chewings, no walk-outs, nada. Others might, but I don’t condone by default any anti-Dawkins action.
- A black person and a white person in the elevator is not analogous to my situation, unless you’re talking about a strange white person following a black person onto an elevator and then inviting him/her to his/her hotel room for fried chicken. In that instance, yes, I do believe that the black person is well within his/her rights to politely ask the privileged white majority of skeptics/atheists to not do that.
- Publicly whining about how you’re sick of this topic and want it to go away makes the topic continue in public. I know, it’s crazy how it works.
- Whether or not I continue discussing the topic publicly, the topic will continue to be relevant to me and to many other women who have contacted me to talk about the behavior that drives them away from the skeptic/atheist community. Not talking about it doesn’t make it go away for us, so we go away instead. Don’t get too excited, though: the most annoying of us will probably stick around.
EDIT: Commenter karenx just posted something that I failed to address, and she did it in a better way than I would have. So here it is as #11:
Hitting on stranger in an elevator–creepy
Criticizing (and vilifying) the woman who says not to creepily hit on strangers in elevator for having the nerve to suggest guys change their behavior–sexist
Defending the prerogative of all men to hit on any woman at any time no matter how it might make women feel, even at the expense of women feeling safe in their environment, because it’s “just how men work”–misogynist