Hello everyone and welcome to Friday’s Afternoon Inquisition. If you’re like me, you can barely focus on today’s AI because you are so stoked about tomorrow’s Drinking Skepchickally in Pittsburgh.Â C’mon ‘Burghers, it’s time to party with Jen, Elyse and me. Plus an assortment of sexy and skeptical people. And Buzzed Aldrins.Â What more do we need?
In the spirit of camraderie, today’s AI is about friendship. I have a fairly large circle of friends and, thanks toÂ various skeptical, work and volunteer events that I participate in, I make new friends all the time.Â I think of myself as pretty non-skeptical when making new friends. I tend to go in from a position of believing the best in people and I’m usually right.
There are times, however, when I’m wrong and I end up being hurt, annoyed or betrayed by people who either aren’t what they say they are or who take advantage of my friendship in one way or the other.Â I sometimes wonder if I should apply more skepticism in my friendships but I think going too far down that path is what causes skepticism to turn into cynicism.
What do you think?
Does being skeptical about friends, their intentions or their behavior imply a lack of trust or make you a bad friend?Â Â What are your experiences with going into a new friendship with too much or too little skepticism?
I’m particularly interested in new people and new relationships. I think once you get into a relationship that is already established, you have more evidence about the person, it’s easier to be skeptical or think about the person critically, based on what you know about them.