I don’t usually watch commercials on TV because my husband built a PVR that has an imported software module that cuts the commercials out of the shows.
However, my husband was sleeping on the couch this afternoon, the TV went into live mode, and I heard someone on the TV say “Tell your kids you want them to wait until they’re married to have sex.” Of course, hearing such idiocy, I had to look up and see what was on. On the bottom right-hand corner of the screen, I saw a www.4parents.gov logo. I groaned, and my husband woke up and switched something on the TV so the commercials disappeared again.
In the meantime, I went to the URL and found this:
Waiting until marriage to have sex is a very healthy decision for teens. You can help your pre-teen or teen decide to wait.
Ok, so that’s stupid. But there was some good advice on the site.
You donâ€™t have to know everything about teens and sex. What you really need to know is how to talk to your child, pre-teen or teen about what you believe. You should talk early and often. It’s never too early to start the conversation. And it’s never too late.
I take it back. That’s not good advice. You don’t need to talk to your teen about what you believe. You need to talk to them about scientific health information. And you do need to know quite a bit more than what’s in the ineffective abstinence only education programs that are plaguing US classrooms. And it’s too late once your kids have learned about sex elsewhere. Which is probably when they are 8 or 9 years old (or is it even younger now than it was when I was a kid?). Ok, the only part that’s good advice is that it’s never too early. But most people who believe that it is better to abstain from sex before marriage probably would be embarassed to talk to their kids about sex, or think that their kids are too young to hear about this before high school. Sigh.
All in all, this is none of the government’s frakking business and I don’t want my taxes spent on paying for TV commercials to promote this kind of crap when over 15% of the US population does not have health insurance. I’m sure some of the money spent on stupid commercials could go toward getting these 45 million people covered.
I have written before about why I think waiting to have sex until marriage is stupid, and maybe even immoral. Please forgive me for quoting myself. Here are some reasons for having sex before marriage:
1. It’s fun.
2. You need to try before you buy.
3. Sexual repression is not healthy for people or for society
4. People are marrying late in life, and some are not marrying at all. How ridiculous and tragic to be a 40-year-old virgin in real life.
I think point 2 merits elaboration:
Second, you wouldn’t marry someone before getting to know if they can balance a checkbook, whether they are a neatnick or a slob, or if they put the toilet seat down and the cap on the toothpaste. So, why would you marry someone when you don’t know if they are a sensitive or good lover? Although many (if not most) hetero men can enjoy sex with any naked woman, most women need lovers who take the time to make sure they are satisfied. How sad to go through life with an insensitive lover or with a lover who can’t or won’t take the time to give you an orgasm! Too many women in the past have lived like this and it’s not acceptable.
P.S. Do I sound grouchy? I had an anti-religious outburst today. I’ll see if I want to write about if after I calm down. It involves messages from a private writing Yahoo! Group that I’m a member of, so I have to figure out how to show the stupidity of the messages that ticked me off without violating the privacy of the posters.